Okay let’s kick off the weekend with a little lesson in not creeping women out. Before you hit your favorite spot to meet women this weekend, I want to help avoid the creep factor. Let’s face it – the absolute worst label any women can put on a man is “creep”. This is probably the kiss of death and once she thinks of you as a creep there is no turning back.

Understand that beautiful women even half decent looking women get male attention all the time and their creep radar is well tuned to behaviors that turn them off.

So what is creepy behavior?

Here is a list of the most common behaviors to avoid around women at all cost.

1) Hovering – basically this is you not having the balls to approach a woman and instead you hover around her staring at her. You think she doesn’t notice but believe SHE DOES! I can’t stress enough how much women hate this so don’t hover and follow her around.

2) Staring – this is overdoing simple eye contact and staring at her like a serial killer. Trust me, it creeps women out to see you looking at her for a long period of time. Here is the problem, you are so freaking obvious it makes her sick. So how much is too much? Eye contact for more than 8 seconds is staring and downright weird.

3) Ass Kissing – Okay you worked up the courage to walk up to a girl and chat her up. You begin to compliment her on everything and buying her drinks. Congratulations now you are the ‘nice guy’ and you know what else? She is actually turned off by it. Never compliment a woman on her looks and never try to buy a woman’s affection.

4) Kino Abuse – Alright kino is powerful tool in attraction but using over using it before you had the chance to establish rapport will actually backfire. Don’t just grab a random girl by the hand or my favorite start massaging her. You will creep her out and you’ll like a fool.

5) Insecurity – This has a lot to do with your self confidence and how it’s reflected outwardly. Do you look around the room nervously? Do you slouch when you sit? Do you speak really fast? You must be emotionally well balanced so you don’t look weird. Problem is that guys who are insecure do these behaviors and not even notice.

Next time you are out with friends take notice your clothing, how you sit, talk and everything else you do. Speak slower, site back and spread out your arms dress clean and neat.

This weekend when you are out with friends examine the room and see of you can spot at least one guy that is displaying any of the above creepy behaviors. Chances are you will find more than one.

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I get asked this a lot from emails I get.

“Okay…..I get it, inner game and self confidence but what else do I need to be successful with women?”

As if I have a magic pill to offer and PRESTO, you become a new man. Sorry buddy but it doesn’t work that way. The missing link is you putting it into practice. Yep – you guessed it, that means actually using the material you have at your disposal and actually making the commitment to change.

Look you can be one of those guys that will buy the material read it once and never uses it. Then how do you expect any results without the work?

Stop procrastinating. It simply doesn’t make sense and you are setting yourself up to failure and even more frustration.

When I bought my first dating eBook, “How to be Irresistible To Women by James Brito” I read it over and over to fully absorb all the important details and even took notes. When I went out with friends I put into an action plan that I will talk to at least 1 girl that night.

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Then it became 2,3,4,5 women I was talking to in a night. My friends noticed and my confidence went through the roof. Sure not all were successful encounters but I didn’t care. I was having a good time and if she was too lame not to hang with me then it was her loss.

Sure it took a while but slowly my whole reality changed and my outlook on women and more importantly my outlook on life in general changed 360 degrees. The day I decided to make the change and basically talk to women was the day I took control of my life and write my own path.

It wasn’t easy in the beginning for me – hell there were times when I made excuses and chose not to hang out for whatever lame reason. Your first task will be to stop making excuses, get over your fear and just do it. Seriously what is the worst that can happen?

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So….were you able to indentify some of these myths that have been wrecking havoc with your self confidence? If you were honest with yourself I’m sure you found at least one.

I myself had 4 at one time!

Today’s post we are going to talk about committing to change and taking control of your emotional state.

The very first thing you must do is make the commitment to change.

Before we go on any further I want to quickly discuss the two most common roadblocks I see with guys suffering from low self confidence. They are:

1. The constant need to compare themselves with someone else. Confident people never feel the need to compare themselves to anyone.
2. Constant critiquing weather its other people or yourself. Passing judgment on others will leave you an island unto yourself and self-critiquing only makes you look pathetic.

These two beta male traits are the most common I’ve seen with guys suffering from low self esteem.

To make this commitment be honest with yourself and admit you need help. There is no shame whatsoever and a real man will admit a fault and take measures to correct it. 

The second thing you must do is take control of your feelings and emotions.

Now that you understand what is causing your loser mentality we need to rid you of those thoughts that are crippling your emotional growth.

Most of this boils down to FEAR. Think about it why are there so many men who still find it difficult to get passed all their fears and insecurities and just do it? I’m talking about walking up to a woman they’d like to know and just talk to her?

Fear of rejection and looking like a fool.

As long as you don’t creep them out women are generally very friendly and approachable.

Do you want the truth? Women are dying for a man that gives off that fun sociable vibe to walk up to them and strike up a conversation.

Very rarely will a chick be a bitch with you and insult you. Even if she does how miserable is she to display that kind of behavior? Would you really wan to waste your time and chat her up?

Do you see just how irrational this is? It makes absolutely no sense.

Once you are in control of your emotions you will be able to control your external world. Life presents us with challenges and throws us curve balls every now and then. However it’s your responsibility to meet that challenge head on without FEAR.

Remember to be totally confident you must believe that you have the ability to succeed. Yes you may get rejected but you shouldn’t take that as a slight against you. Rather brush it off and talk to the next girl.

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That inner voice that tells you that this is how the world sees you can be terribly damaging in particular if you see yourself in a harsh manner.

The human brain is constantly talking to us in our minds and for many of us it’s negative. All of these negative thoughts boil down to feelings. With these negative feeling constantly creeping into your life in your mind is trapped in a loop. Just like a record skipping those negative feelings never leave you.

Some of the most common negative feeling that destroys a man’s self confidence are:

1. Looking stupid
2. Being too fat
3. Too old
4. Ugly
5. Loser guy
6. Not having enough money

All these myths are designed to hold you back in life and make you feel like crap. The truth is that these myths have absolutely zero impact on your success with women. In my life 4 of these myths affected me tremendously but the myth of not having money really put the screws in me.

I honestly felt that I needed money and be hugely successful in my job to attract women. I let that myth fester and I used it as an excuse for not putting myself out there and staying home.

I basically served myself a crap sandwich with an extra heaping of shit every time the weekend came by. No wonder why I had self confidence issues! All men with self confidence issue can pin point there issues to one of these myths.

The problem is that it’s how you think about yourself.  Again it’s all in your mind yet you already validated that negative feeling by acting on it.

Lets take a moment and kill these myths.

Looking stupid – you feel that if you approach a women and get rejected you will look stupid. It’s how you handle the situation that will ultimately define your success. Just because she said “no” doesn’t mean you should feel stupid. You must be in control your feels and the fear of rejection is what this is all about.

Being too fat – the ultimate body image myth. I know of a personal friend who is 300 lbs and yet married a very good looking women by not allowing the “I’m too fat” voice ever get to him.

Too old – especially affect guys that are in their 40’s 50’s even mid thirties that are singe once again and look at some beautiful younger women and say, “I’m just too old now”. This is simply not true, I’ve seen younger women go after older men (not because they have money) simply because these men showed them a great time. They never used it as a personal limitation rather as an attribute.

Ugly – If you have read any of my articles then you would know that women ultimately don’t judge men based on looks. It’s all about self confidence and the most powerful aphrodisiac for women is HUMOR!

Loser guy – is ultimately how you see yourself. If you have not been successful with women your image of yourself is that of a loser. This one is cruel and most damaging because it makes the sufferer just give up. Albeit you may have had little success in the past you do have the power to change. I was able to do it.

Not having enough money – what a joke. I honestly thought that women only responded to men that were successful and made tons of $$$$. I was so stupid that I didn’t realize then just how foolish this myth is.

We have identified the top 6 myths that kill your self confidence and pieced them apart. Stay tuned for Part II where we improve and tweak your self confidence.

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What a crazy day yesterday was….we have the nations’ first black president. Now that’s history. Hopefully he’ll do a good job and wipe this country back into shape.

Okay back to the good stuff. I see a lot of guys thinking that being the “Jerk” is the man to be since they get laid all the time. They talk down to women and for the most part dog them.

Now it’s true that “nice guys” finish last and “jerks” get laid they will never be able to hold on to a quality women.

Let me repeat that – jerks will never get a quality women. For the most part they attract women that have self-confidence issues and other emotional issues. A strong confident woman will almost always sniff them out and not consider them as a catch. The only thing a “jerk” does right is appeal to a woman’s emotional state.

If you answered either “nice guy” you need to build up yourself confidence and quit being a woman’s doormat.

On the other hand if you answered “I’m a jerk”…..buddy you are no alpha male! Yeah you are sexually aggressive and you do score but in the long run you will wind up with the wrong kind of woman. If you need to treat a woman like dirt because you think you’re a badass. You are weak emotionally.

As far as you nice guys look to jerks as lessons on what not to do with women. I had a close friend I grew up with and he got laid like no other and we all were like damn. BUT at the same time he treated them horribly and they were all low quality women in my opinion. Funny thing is that after a while nearly all those chicks dumped him when they got tired of his shit.

Needless to say I never envied him.

When you properly develop your inner game and become comfortable in your own skin you will become an alpha male. That is the man you really are, it’s just locked away.

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Okay today I want to share with you one simple exercise that will help you overcome your fear of approach anxiety. This confidence building exercise is to be done several times a day. In several weeks I can assure you much of your approach anxiety will disappear and your confidence level will be high.

So what is this magic exercise?

Say “Hi” to total strangers.

It’s that simple – all you need to do is to approach women that are decent looking in the gym, at the market or on the street and simply say “Hi”.

For example when I was building up my confidence I would walk into a tanning salon when I got out of the gym and ask one of the girls what my tanning options were. For some reason tanning salons tend to employ cute young women. What better way than to strike up small conversation?

That’s what my confidence building technique was. I would walk into whatever store approach the best looking girl and simple ask a question. Even though I could have easily done it myself I used that opportunity to approach.

In the beginning I didn’t try to pick up at all. I was still refining my skills and I recommend you do the same. Don’t try to pick up right away! You goal is to simply approach as many women as possible say hello and make a graceful exit.

THAT IS ALL!!

Do that enough times and your confidence will soon begin to soar. For more techniques on confidence building and inner game techniques click the link and get started.

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I’m very excited to spread the word of Carlos Xuma’s new course on inner game. It’s a complete new way of thinking for men struggling to overcome anxiety and nervousness when approaching women.

Look we have all been there. At one point in our lives we have all been awkward with women, doubted our selves based on our looks or just plain shy and introverted.

Faking it till you make will ultimately fail and lead you know where. You MUST learn how to mesh both your inner game and outer game until they work seamlessly. It’s much more to act confident you must be confident so your exterior is a mirror of your inner game.

Watch these FREE videos from Carlos Xuma on Inner Game:

Video 1: BULLETPROOF Self-Confidence

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Video 3: Confidence Time bombs

Watch the videos as Carlos coughs up a ton of free information and his last video is a real eye opener!

Don’t forget to mark your calendar for this Thursday Ultimate Inner Game will be live and available.

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Okay not too long ago a friend of mine was celebrating her 28th birthday by the beach. I met with a few mutual friends and we were all having a good time drinking and eating. There were several women there most however were with boyfriends but it didn’t matter I was having a good time.

Next thing I know one chick decides to bark and butt into my conversation with one of my other friends saying I was offensive.

My response was, “And?”

Keep in mind I didn’t know who this girl was.

She said that I was being offensive and I asked, “In what way?”

She proclaimed that I was being too loud!

“OH REALLY!” was my response (I said with a shit grin). She didn’t like that whatsoever. Why the hell should I apologize for having a good time?

Needless to say she was pissed I could see daggers in her eyes. That night I went home laughing about the whole experience.

Fast forward to the following Saturday I’m hanging out at my buddy’s apartment complex since we were going to hit the bar in a moment. I should explain that my buddy and birthday girl live in the same complex. Birthday girl makes an unannounced visit to say “Hello”.

Take a wild guess whom is with her? Yep the same girl who I was challenging the weekend before!

I thought nothing of it – as we all hit the bar. My buddy is there with his wife talking to birthday girl and I decide to chat with the same girl I was fighting with the weekend before.

In a few short minutes I was able to make fun of the whole situation and make her laugh. I kid you not within 10 minutes she was kissing me. After a couple of hours I offered her a ride home and she accepted. I made her coffee the following morning.

WTF! How the hell did this happen?

Then it dawned on me, I challenged her and I must have made an impression. I didn’t turn into a pussy and apologize to her instead and balled up and challenged her. I was still a gentleman and did not insult her or cuss her out.

Now I admit I was lucky I got to see her a 2nd time but I used it to basically disarm her with laughter and ultimately attract her.

• Did I avoid her? NO
• Did I make an excuse and say I can’t hang? NO
• Did I say the hell with it and make a move? Yes
• Did I make her laugh about the situation and disarm her? YES and YES

All this lends to the notion of strong inner game. This is exactly why I recommend Carlos Xuma’s new course Ultimate Inner Game: Total Self Confidence & Social Success. Do yourself the favor and watch the videos now!

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Confidence, Great conversation, and deep connection is what separates the men from the boys. That’s what I learned from a childhood friend Danny who to be honest is really nothing to look at and stands at best 5’7.

Yet he was able to figure it out before anyone of us. In no time he was dating hot women, lots of hot women. I have to admit he and I used to butt heads just because our personalities didn’t mix but I have to say he probably slept with 250 – 350 women.

That is no exaggeration!

He cared less what people thought about him and has great social skills. Bottom line…..he knows women. I used to wonder WTF does he do?

What I realize now was that he will go for it no matter what. He doesn’t care if she’s with a group of girls or even if she shoots him down. His inner game is so solid for him to hook its easy. He simply didn’t allow anxiety and nervousness to pollute his mindset.

He always viewed himself as a catch with women, made them laugh and never kissed up to them.

That was it! If you are able to do that believe me you are in seduction nirvana. Women are more emotional than men and they respond to the emotions you can stir up with them.

If a plain looking 5’7 guy was able to master his inner game then why can’t you?

My only real regret in life is that I wasn’t able to figure this out when I was 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23…….I think you get the idea. The truth was that I was emotionally withdrawn and socially retarded. I finally said the hell with this bullshit and let all my anxiety go.

It was if a light switch was turned on and I began to grow as a person and as a man. I never want to go back to that guy I used to be, I’m having way too much fun now!

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Hello Folks! Just got back from Cabo San Lucas and it was a blast. There wasn’t as many people I thought there would be but it didn’t matter there were plenty of women around to talk to and I have to say it was fun.

Guys if you have never been to Cabo San Lucas I was told that during Spring Break there is way more women than dudes and best of all they are there to party. Damn I love Mexico!

Okay enough of that. I want to talk to you guys about setting up a real New Years Resolution you will take action on.

What is it? Improving your inner game. A lot of us guys have this notion that reading a couple of books on dating and memorizing some lines will step up your Game….it won’t. You need a foundation and your current “inner game” needs some fine tuning. What I’m talking about is eliminating your anxiety and nervousness.

I want you to really sit down and actually write down your New Years resolution on paper and post it on your mirror so you see it every day. If you are sabotaging yourself from meeting women admit you have some “inner game” issues and improve on it.

STOP MAKING EXCUSES! Believe me no one cares.

You owe it to yourself to be the man you want to me without having to comprise your true self.

Do yourself the favor and watch these videos from Carlos Xuma. He is releasing in a couple of weeks Ultimate Inner Game: Total Self Confidence & Social Success.

I had the chance to take a sneak peek and it’s incredible. I wish I had this 15 years ago so I would have conquered this long ago.

Until next time……take care and make your resolution!

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