Unless you’ve been a total dweeb and living under a rock you have heard of the term “coming on to hard” with women. So what does it mean? Basically showing too much interest in a chick you are hitting on.

So there you are talking with a bona fide “10” and you are laying it on real thick complimenting her looks, making sexual innuendos, going for the kiss but she stops you dead in your tracks and runs away.

If you are coming on too hard she will assume you are looking to only get laid – girls don’t want to appear like a slut and will turn away.

Trick is to keep it slow and tease her along the way. In no way do I recommend screwing with her head and leading her on – DON’T DO IT!

You don’t want to come on too strong all it does is make you appear immature and you will not score with her. Trust me I made this mistake too many times.

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Flirting is the best weapon you have with women. When done correctly you won’t come on too strong and she will find you irresistible.

Whenever you’re dealing with women, remind yourself to take slow and always flirt! Most women LOVE it when guys flirt and tease playfully. It shows women you are a man who is confident and fun; after all women want to be shown a good time.

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All men have been rejected from women in the dating scene (at least the ones that try); question is how to stamp out rejection from your mind so it doesn’t affect your overall game.

Tip #1: Dating and hooking up is a numbers game, that’s it. You will need to get through several “No’s” before a “YES”. It’s not like I’m able to get every women I talk with to sleep with me. It just doesn’t happen that way.

Tip #2: Don’t take her rejection personal. She rejected you because she is too stupid to realize you are a great guy. You are better off turning to the girl right next to her and starting a conversation. By the way I do just that – when a girl rejects me I will deliberately turn to the girl next to her and chat her up.

Tip #3: Don’t dwell on that rejection, deflect that negative energy and focus on the other women there are looking for a man just like you! I mean it – you are 10x better than the other douchebags in that bar / club.

Here are my 3 tips in destroying rejection. Over time you will soon develop unstoppable confidence and women will see this aura coming from you.

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Wow I just finished practicing on my guitar reviewing my chords (F chord is killing me) and playing whole, half and quarter notes. The whole notes are simple while quarter notes are progressively harder.

It dawned on me of what to tell you guys when you get frustrated trying to picking up women.

Look I just picked up the guitar 3 weeks ago and the little I’ve done I’ve been able to play the C, Am and G chords with ease. Although F is still hard I have no intention to give up – I WANT TO PLAY GUITAR WELL.

The key is not to get frustrated and give up – only losers give up with out a fight. Let me tell you something, I’m no loser!

Women are very much like guitars – very difficult at first but the more you practice the better you will become. In fact the more you practice your confidence soars and the more comfortable you become.

I did a couple of things to advance my success: I got guitar lessons from a professional and dove into it (I love music). After all how do you think Eric Clampton, Stevie Ray Vaughan, Randy Rhoads and all the greats became awesome guitar players? Practice, Practice and more Practice.

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With this in mind if you find yourself struggling there is nothing wrong in buying an ebook / book / DVD on picking up women, using online dating, or also utilizing your circle of friends.

Never give up on you! I can think of nothing worse than giving up on women and just saying the hell with it. I firmly believe that having a partner will add years to your life and bring happiness & joy.

Why on Earth piss that away?

Keep in mind that you have to build up experience to get good with women. In addition you will have both good and bad ones so take it like a champ and keep meeting women!

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Seems like my last post was popular with my female readers :twisted:  I necessarily can’t blame them. I had several emails from women complaining of guys not really knowing how to act in public and looking like complete jackasses. Guys there is a lesson to be learned here – don’t act the guys from Tool Academy!

On to today’s post!

The 1st thing I learned in attracting women when it finally clicked was not to give a damn what other people thought of me. Seriously too many guys are afraid to approach out of fear. They fear what their friends will think, what she will say, so on and so on.

Stop living in fear and start living! Sounds cliché I know but so many guys still don’t approach due to fear.

2nd tip for attracting women is to be a mystery. What I mean is not to divulge your life details first time you meet. Sure you want to answer some of her questions just don’t vomit at the mouth.

One of the best tactics I used was exhibiting aloof behavior. Women are so used to men doing whatever they want breaking that routine will make then want you more. I swear by this! I once dated a chick whose previous boyfriend did what ever she demanded and I came along to disrupt her charmed life.

I didn’t answer her calls right away nor did I kiss her ass – I suggest you do the same.

3rd tip for attracting women is flirting. It’s that simple – flirting can do wonders for men who are tall, short, fat, skinny, handsome or ugly. If you can flirt and make her smile and build that sexual tension YOU WILL GET LAID.

Okay I want to share a hot tip I used in bars and clubs using a simple gesture allowing me to flirt without uttering a word.

“The Look”
Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you are on the other side of the bar and you see a very attractive girl glancing across the room? The real question is what do you do when that attractive girl locks eyes on you?

Now here’s the fun part – you can flirt with her without saying a word.

Yep you can give a look and flirt with her using a simple expression – the one I used with success.

All I do is make eye contact and crack a smile and turn away at the same time. Don’t ask why but it does work. The trick is to casually glance back and see if she is smiling. If she is that’s your queue to move in if not then don’t worry you wont score 100% of the time.

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I was only Plenty Of Fish this afternoon and this was the headline from a young attractive single lady.

no douchebags please =)

I thought it was hilarious at first but in reality it’s a sad state of affairs when a young attractive single lady has to add this to her profile. Truth be told there are a ton of douchebags on dating sites that just don’t get it. When I first signed on for Match and Plenty of Fish I looked at some profiles from guys to do some “competitive analysis”.

I saw a ton of guys will horrible profiles and even worse photos. Guys in front of the mirror with their shirt off or headlines that read – “Nice Guy Looking For Love”.

These women want a man to come by and sweep them of their feet. If you are exhibiting any type of douchebaggery behavior (just watch Tool Academy to get an idea) you need to stop it immediately.

There was one uber douchebag that bragged how much money he made and how great he is.  Why boast how much money you make? His photos were even more laughable -  all he did was take photos of himself and his muscles. What the fu*k is guy thinking? All this dummy will do in the end is to attract the wrong kind of women.

So as a public service to ALL WOMEN please don’t act like a douchebag.

Stay tuned this week I’m going to come out with some hot methods in attracting women that I’m sure you’ll find useful. One I use often to catch her attention and it works without looking like a creep!

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Ever wonder how guys that are naturals with women are bale to keep them wrapped around the finger with ease? They have a knack for being funny, able to tease and be serious all at the same time. They can change their state from one to the other and still be true to their real personality.

They able to switch it up and don’t feel the need to be serious all the time or funny all the time. Women love it when men send mixed signals and are “different”.

Truth is that men who are always serious are boring. Alternately men that are always funny 100% of the time may be looked at as clowns. Change it up and keep her guessing!  

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It’s just that easy – when she thinks she has you figured out surprise her with something new. I’m not saying to act like a manic – on the contrary be true to your personality. Nothing is lamer than being  a total fake.

What makes this so important is that without warning you can bring her to an emotional high. Women love this type of man and crave the emotions he can stir up.

I hope this helps with your interaction with women and remember to change it up – be funny, serious and playfully tease her. Trust me she will eat this up all day long.

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Last week I decided to take my 1st guitar lesson ever! I decided to learn after listening to some of favorite songs done in acoustic made me want to do the same. I have to admit learning an instrument with no previous training is very challenging.

I was inspired from the acoustic version of Joy Division’s “Atmosphere” on Youtube that it was time for me to learn something new. To be very honest I was at that point I my life were I felt I wasn’t doing enough. Sure I have a great job and I go to the gym and hang with my friends. However I think I can do more – so why not learn something entirely new?

I’m not doing to impress anyone or girls for that matter. I honestly want to learn something that will preoccupy my down time and expand my brain.

Point is that I’m in my early 30’s and I didn’t let that prevent me in learning something new or take up a new hobby. I just said “go for it” and I did just that.

I just wish there were cliff notes for this stuff but where would all the fun be. 

The lesson to be learned is if you think you can broaden your life then take up a new hobby, learn an instrument, learn to paint, go off roading anything that will expand your life.

I personally don’t like to sit around and do nothing. The great thing about new hobbies is that this will make you that ‘busy and in-demand guy’ with women. You have a life and you march at your own pace.

You don’t have to be that guy that wakes up in the morning goes to work gets home and sleeps just to repeat it the following day. Sorry but I actually want a life and that grind isn’t for me.

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…a negative dumbass!

I want to talk about that guy you know – “rainy Steve” who’s perpetually negative who never has anything nice to say. He seems to have the innate ability to point out the negative in any situation.

There is one thing we can all learn from these types of guys is that they repel women almost instantly. Women feed off emotions and women with a healthy emotional framework will not find a negative guy attractive whatsoever.

Nearly all my friends that were really good with women were positive no matter what the situation. They always found something positive about the situation they were in.

What I’m trying to get through is that your outlook will determine your success with women and life in general.

Be that “fun guy” women love to be around. How do you accomplish this? It’s through the stories you tell, your hobbies, humor and your attitude. None of this can be accomplished without being positive.

There are too many guys I see that are just plain negative and get pissed off when they are rejected by women. No wonder!

The great thing is that all that negative bullshit is something you can change and rid yourself from.

Negativity comes from you focusing too much on outcomes that will adversely affect your life – real or imagined. If you think she will laugh at you before approaching her you are focusing on an imagined negative outlook.

What a waste of time!!

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Lets talk about “day game” for a moment. There was a time that approaching a woman during the day would have scared the hell out of me and I simply didn’t do it. In fact I thought that bars, clubs & parties were the best spots in picking up women.

Truth is I couldn’t have been more wrong. At the time I didn’t understand that generally speaking women are on guard approaching them at the typical ‘meat market’ is so much more challenging than a normal setting. Although women go to bars and clubs to meet a man that can sweep them off their feet they are highly selective.

Women will never run the risk of appearing like a slut so she will only entertain the one guy that can successfully pull off a good pickup.

You see it all the time women totally pushing men away and shooting them down left and right. Don’t get me wrong she’s not a bitch she’s just deflecting all the douchebags away from her.

Take her out of that environment and she is now much more relaxed and not on guard. How many times have you seen a hot chick in the market, Starbucks, clothing store or at the park? Seriously they are all over the place and you have the advantage if you approach her!

How do I have the advantage? Simply said no other guy is doing it or thinking about it.

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So how do you go about picking her up in broad daylight?

Well you have 2 choices as I see it.

1) Direct approach
2) Indirect approach

With the direct approach you simply walk up to her and can say something like:

“I don’t have that much time but I wanted to say, I love your sense of style, reminds me of that bohemian look. Let’s grab coffee sometime this week.”

As you can see very simple and to the point. You are putting it out your intentions so you don’t waste your time.

The indirect approach you’ll basically comment on her activity or what she is doing.

“I noticed you drinking that new blend how is it?” From there you continue the conversation.

The only rule always have a time limit on how long you can stay – make an excuse that friends are waiting on you, you have to be somewhere or whatever excuse you can come up with. However you must ask for her digits then leave.

There is no reason to stop her in the street and get into some bullshit story how you witnessed a street fight or how you saw a gang of feral cats kill a man.

Here is the funny part – women actually love this kind of approach. I used both direct and indirect approaches and they both work most of the time. Here are the 3 responses you should expect to receive:

1) Be prepared for her to say “No” – it will happen but not all that often from my own experiences. Maybe she has a boyfriend or is having a bad day. Don’t worry about it and move one – just brush it off and move on to the next one.

2) You will also sometimes get the “Why don’t you give me your number” which in fact is another form of her saying “No” politely.

3) Sure! Are you ready? She is interested and she wants you to call her – BINGO!! You’ll be happy to know that women are very receptive during the day outside of the typical bar / club scene.

I hope this opens your eyes on day game and it’s not hard – in fact it’s easier than the bar scene. Good luck!

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