Ahhh yes you’ve heard from other PUA’s and dating coaches their countless techniques in approaching hot women – I mean the hottest women you’ll find anywhere.

There is so much emphasis on drills and canned routines it doesn’t really attack the one problem area.

How may times have you seen a **HOT** woman only to chicken out in approaching her? It has happened to all of us and more times I myself want to admit. Many dating coaches don’t address one mindset you need to adopt before making any kind of approach.

Fearlessness in taking chances!

Lets face it – you have a chance in her taking an interest in you if you actually try. You will fail 100% of the time if you never approach her!

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We have all seen those stunningly beautiful women where your jaw just drops.  All you can say is, ‘Wow she is hot’.

Here is the funny thing those women are not approached very often by men. They are so hot 9 out 10 guys are too afraid to say anything let alone spit some game. Believe it or not the odds are actually on your side. They want a man to walk up to them and charm them.
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To be truthful you must adopt a positive mindset. Stop dwelling in the past or any negative outcomes. A positive mindset of alpha males usually are loaded with self affirmations like:

- I’m great looking with a future
- I have my shit together
- I’m the best looking guy here
- I have so much to offer women

The list can go on and on and I have several friends that used these exact affirmations. They were and still are convinced they are nothing short of awesome. Sometimes I shake my head and sure enough they will land the chick they want.

All I’m trying to get through here is that you must take a chance. Remember what I said, most of these ultra hot women are not approached by that many men. Okay she may blow you off. So what? What the hell do you care? Just move on to the next girl and to the next and next until you meet one.

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So what do you think guys is it better to have many lovers and be “that guy” that get them all or find that one lucky chick you will be with for a long time?

It actually comes down to a matter of choice. Let’s face it if you want to me the ultimate player than that’s up to you. However I’ll be upfront I think a monogamous relationship is the best thing you can have.

You’ll hear from other PUA’s and player that having many, many, many women is simply natural and unavoidable. I disagree with that statement 100%

First off, we have evolved enough where we don’t have to spread our seed everywhere and secondly having multiple women can actually backfire on you (if you aren’t careful). Not too many women with a strong sense of self will trust a man that’s been let’s say a 100 women. In fact they may not find him to be ‘husband’ material.

I am a proponent of getting great with women and dating several of them so you know what you want when you finally meet her.

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I think it’s important that men learn how to become that guy women desire. In an age of political correctness, women’s liberation and lack of strong male role models many men have lost their natural maleness. Sounds weird but it’s true. There is just so much wrong information and bullshit – lets face it for many guys they are clueless. Hell, I was one of them.

So in summary don’t make life into a game of merely meeting women to fuck ‘em and chuck ‘em. I really don’t think that healthy for anyone. However make it a point to get great with women and learn how to make her laugh and how to flirt with her.

Why? So when you meet her there will be no obstacles to get the one that’s right for you! Who knows that monogamous relationship may become the most fulfilling one you will ever have.

Keep on keepin’ on and you too will find the one for you!

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Back to sunny California after visiting my folks for Thanksgiving last week and I had a blast. I saw several family friends I haven’t seen in years and pigged out on “dirty water dogs” and pizza for 7 days!

Okay enough of going down memory lane lets get back to business at hand here with today’s post. I want to talk about making women comfortable around you.

If you want women to trust you and hang on to you and ultimately sleep with you, you better learn how to make them feel comfortable with you. I know what you are saying how do I do this?

You need to follow three rules here:

• build TRUST
• make the girl FEEL SAFE
• don’t be a DOUCHEBAG (be exciting but not phony)

Lets break each one down…

Building trust with a woman just means not bullshitting them and trying so hard. You want to tell them enough but not too much (always add mystery to the mix).

Making her feel safe is not creeping her out by hovering on top of her, lurking around her or making stupid sexual comments. If you need help with “knowing what to say” with women then you need to get Flirt Mastery. This will literally have you “spittin game” like no other. Trust me – I use the tips in this book!

Last but not least please don’t be a douchebag. I’m being serious here I see a ton of guys trying way too hard and trying to be the guy they think they need to be to attract the girl.

In a sense be yourself BUT calibrate your personality so you are the fun, mysterious and confident man in her eyes.

I usually break the ice by asking a question and turning it on her where she opens up. I just sit back smile and relax. You can do exactly the same it’s not that difficult.

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Hey guys – thanks for visiting my blog! I was catching up with an old childhood friend I haven’t seen in 5 years and of course the conversation switched to women. As we were discussing past lays and current women it dawned on me the one thing we do when talking with women.

We let them talk about themselves – it’s that easy I promise you.

If you ever get stuck not knowing what to say focus the conversation on her and she’ll take control like Mario Andretti does behind the wheel.

I can’t explain it women LOVE talking about themselves.

It doesn’t matter if you’re teasing her about something, or discussing a childhood memory, you’ll receive positive feedback since you are showing interest on what she likes. This also deflects talking too much about yourself leaving your background intel a mystery to her.

As you can see to spark her attraction all you really need to do is keep the conversation going. Its not important what you talk about all that matters is how you talk. There come a point where you want to demonstrate some depth, change the topic to your goals in life, travels etc.

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Another great chick-topic to cover is current events in pop culture. Women are very current with pop culture so I strongly encourage you to look at www.TMZ.com for ammunition for your conversation. Women love it when men talk about “interesting” topics not boring shit like video games and politics.

Personally my favorite topic is travelling. I have so much material to draw from when I went to Europe I can go on and on. Point is that women want a man that is worldly open to new cultures and has some substance to him. If you aren’t “well travelled” then talk about some interesting places you’ve gone to or things you have done.

Here I’ve given you some hot topics to discuss with women. This will help you keep the conversation going and building up that sexual tension. Gook luck guys!!!!

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Recently I had a friend dodge a major bullet when his then fiancé dumped him. We all knew she was a piece of garbage and we all saw signs of her bull shit. So I wanted to pull together all the repugnant qualities she had and warn you all of what to avoid in women.

The first type of women to avoid is the Money Magnet.  Here is a girl that basically will only don designer clothes and usually has fake boobies. If she has a modest job but insists on wearing very expensive clothes there is a sign she likes wealth or the appearance of wealth.

If she has fake boobies that’s a neon sign that she’s insecure of her body and went as far to get fake tities. Sorry but any women with fake boobies want to land a man with money and live the good life. 

Look I’m not stupid, there are a lot of guys that want these ultra hot women around there arm – but you need to play the game by your rules. So what is the #1 rule when dating this kind of woman? Always let them know you’re not impressed by them. Your confidence will let her know you are the man and won’t fall for her bullshit.

The second type of women to avoid is the 1 Night Stand Chick. You know these many of you have had them and enjoyed them. I sure did and still would – only difference is that I will never make them my girlfriend.

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If you have a girl you just met and she’s constantly touching you and grinding up against you on the dance floor – put a rubber on a go for it! Just don’t profess your love for this girl.

The third type of women to avoid is the Drama Queen. These women do nothing but complain and nag about the dumbest crap. Only problem is that it becomes your problem only to complicate your life.

If you let her she’ll complain for hours about nothing.

So here you go – these were all the glaring red flags this woman showed with my buddy for a tortuous 3 years. Luckily she called off the whole marriage and in the end we all threw him a congratulatory party.

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Last week I decided to take my 1st guitar lesson ever! I decided to learn after listening to some of favorite songs done in acoustic made me want to do the same. I have to admit learning an instrument with no previous training is very challenging.

I was inspired from the acoustic version of Joy Division’s “Atmosphere” on Youtube that it was time for me to learn something new. To be very honest I was at that point I my life were I felt I wasn’t doing enough. Sure I have a great job and I go to the gym and hang with my friends. However I think I can do more – so why not learn something entirely new?

I’m not doing to impress anyone or girls for that matter. I honestly want to learn something that will preoccupy my down time and expand my brain.

Point is that I’m in my early 30’s and I didn’t let that prevent me in learning something new or take up a new hobby. I just said “go for it” and I did just that.

I just wish there were cliff notes for this stuff but where would all the fun be. 

The lesson to be learned is if you think you can broaden your life then take up a new hobby, learn an instrument, learn to paint, go off roading anything that will expand your life.

I personally don’t like to sit around and do nothing. The great thing about new hobbies is that this will make you that ‘busy and in-demand guy’ with women. You have a life and you march at your own pace.

You don’t have to be that guy that wakes up in the morning goes to work gets home and sleeps just to repeat it the following day. Sorry but I actually want a life and that grind isn’t for me.

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I’ve been seeing something in men that makes them quiver at the sight of any remotely hot woman – the old “forget it she’s just out of my league” statement.

I’m here to say it’s a bunch of bullshit!

For starters this mentality will result in failure 100% of the time. Why are you going to count yourself out even before the bell rings? All this does is add to your dating frustration and contribute to a negative / jaded outlook.

You must see yourself as the prize no matter what and to be frank not give a FUCK what other people think – least of all what she thinks! If you portray that type of attitude in your approach trust me you will be disqualified.

Take it from me I used to do this and I was consistently disappointed. Women aren’t goddesses and they sure aren’t perfect.

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That type of mentality is nothing more than low self confidence and you must change your thinking from ‘she is a goddess’ to she’d be lucky to date a guy like myself.

Is this arrogance? No – I would have to disagree with that assumption. I by no means suggesting to treat women like crap. Trust, Honesty and Respect are virtues I value in life as you should as well.

The only women that are out of your league are those women that are married. Any other single woman is fair game in my book. The nest time you see a hot woman don’t put her on a pedestal and think she’s out of your league.

Approach her – besides what else to you really have to lose?

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Wow what a weekend and it’s still not over!! This past Saturday was my friends bachelor party and I must admit it was a ton of fun. All of us basically celebrating his leap forward into a new phase in his life.

Bro I wish you and your new women the best man!!

I want to talk about something to you guys about how some men seem to have women just wrapped around their fingers and at the same time it looks as though they don’t even make an effort or try.

Essentially that is the secret sauce so to speak – all they do is act aloof and not call them every 5 minutes. 

You want to primarily communicate you are a mystery to women. That is your #1 weapon because you are letting her know you have your own life and you have options other than her.

Yes I know you want to go in your life story and spill the beans on all you accomplished and what a great catch you are. But that’s where most guys go wrong and screw it all up. Let her FILL IN THE BLANKS. In short don’t be too candid as to how you spend your free time – instead deflect and ask her questions.

In sales there’s an old saying – he who asks the questions is in control.

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That old saying couldn’t be more true – you want to ask questions about what she likes to do (women love talking about themselves) and now it’s the perfect time to inject humor and playfully tease her on what she reveals to you.

Don’t get me wrong she will ask you questions as well but answer some of them and again don’t reveal your entire background.

Okay guys I hope this will sink in the next time you are talking with women – my usual strategy is to ask them questions and tease them every so often based on what they say. It’s really not that hard and it works.

As for me I’m going to hit the guym in the next hour and head over to a BBQ this afternoon. Until next time – keep on keepin on!!

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I don’t know about you but I’m melting in my townhome! For some reason I’m thinking that August is gearing up to be a nasty one.

Okay back to my question; When do you think it’s time to impress her?

Never! Don’t ever adopt the mindset that you need to impress women, once you do you already lost the interaction. You’ll be too preoccupied with what to say, what to wear, what to do – you’ll never be able to just relax.

The “I have to impress” her mindset is one of insecurity and it will show through your actions.

Do you see what will happen? That mindset will drag you down and she will notice every insecure move you make destroying your chances with her. Trust me when I say women notice every word, action and the slightest change in your body language.

The mindset you must adopt when you are around her is not to give a rat’s ass what other people think. Stop worrying what she will think instead have the attitude that “this is who I am take it or leave it.”

Case in point I had a buddy of mine that made good money and let everyone know that he made beaucoup bucks. He also made sure he took he first dates to fancy restaurants buying them dinners. Here’s the problem dinners is a losing proposition. You are sitting mostly eating and not talking, limited interaction and you are stuck with the bill with the hopes of getting laid.

So here is my friend trying to impress his date with an expensive dinner and he’s getting nowhere. Dinners are for serious girlfriends and wives – remember that!

Start adopting the attitude that you don’t need to impress anyone and have the attitude – “This is me you don’t like it too bad.”

As soon as you let go of your insecurities you’ll see your self confidence increase exponentially and your success with women.

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Hey guys I hope your Memorial Day Weekend was just as awesome as mine was. I got to damn drunk I was hung over for much of the weekend – but it doesn’t matter I was able to meet several sweet hearts and get their numbers.

Anyway there is something I want to talk to you about and that is transforming your weak game into a whole new field that reverberates strength. At the same time strengthening your personality or making it come out in a positive way.

Most of what I will talk about will come from the deep inner parts of your mind.

The very first thing you need to start doing is believing your are cool. Yes I mean you need to stop shitting on yourself and stop saying you are a loser. You are only a loser when you say it. You must believe you are cool and that women want to be with a guy just like you.

Trust me when I say that you are not being arrogant when you think you are cool – I prefer the term self empowerment. However at the same time if you dress up like Luke Skywalker and play video games all day you have some work to do.

It’s not enough to believe you are cool but your internal also needs to come out externally as well. Go out and let go of all the crutches you held on for so long.

My second tip is never ever let rejection crush you. Look you are inside a bar, club, outdoor fair whatever – 50% of the people there are women! If one chick shoots you down turn to the next one.

I had a buddy that was in a bar and the girl he tried to open flat out rejected him.

What does he do?

He turned to the girl right next to the one that rejected him and opened her. Ballsy? Yes! Did that method work? Absolutely.

Now here is the last sticking point for guys when transforming themselves into the men they want to be. Truthfully speaking this should be applied to every aspect of your life. Never care what other people think of you. Leaders have this quality when they make decisions and so do alpha males.

Why should you care what other people think of you? If you like house music over rock don’t let your friends clown you for your tastes. What I’m trying to get is BE YOUR OWN MAN! Don’t play follow the leader, do what you like

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