Wow it’s been a long time since I’ve been here but truth be told my career and dating life has been taking a lot of my time in the past few months. I’m having a ton of fun and loving life right now. Recently I came back from Las Vegas for a trade show and had a blast.

Alright back to business – I want to talk to all the guys on Match and POF who are getting responses to winks and emails but are blowing the transition in getting her phone number.

So what is today’s lesson?

DON’T ask for her number right away! You will creep her out or she simply won’t respond to your 2nd follow up message. Remember she responded to your wink or email because she thinks you’re cute and you seem like a fun guy.

She responded with a ‘Hello’ – so your job is to charm her and basically exchange 3 to 4 emails each on basic info about each other (likes, dislikes, commonalities etc). If your second message is: “Hey what is your number?” you will come off needy/clingy and you’ll scare her away.

I always look for commonalities in her profile and will write something back and ask a couple of questions about her pictures, hobbies…whatever…you get the point.

I’ve always used this simple method with huge success but today was the 1st time a cutie on Match.com said “you’ve passed the weirdo test I can’t wait to talk to you”.

I think I see some panties dropping soon!!

I hope you will find today’s post useful so remember in your first 3-4 emails ask her some fun questions about her profile pics, her favorite vacation spots or hobbies to establish some commonalities. After she’s feels comfortable with you then ask for her number.

Keep on keepin on…

~ Dre

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Hi guys hope you all had an amazing Thanksgiving this week. It’s easy to lose site of all the things we have in life and focus too much on what we don’t have. First step in a positive mindset is to focus on what you have a re-script it in a positive light.

Now I want to talk about something I see more and more on Match.com and POF. It’s when you decide to send an email to that lucky gal and you write something bland and boring like:

Subject: “Hi”

Body: “From your profile you seem like a positive, genuine, down to earth girl. I’d like to get to know you a little more – you just seem more than what you put on your profile. Looking forward to chatting with you…”

Okay the first thing wrong is the subject line – “Hi” or “What’s Sup” simply doesn’t work. Remember one thing these women are getting bombarded with emails and the first thing they see is the subject line.

You need to set yourself apart right away and that means putting some thought into that email.

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Why am I saying this? I see more and more profiles from women that are requesting potential guys not to say “Hi”, “Sup” or “How’s it going”

I have read it right there at the end of their profiles – they are begging men not to do that and be a little more original. Okay so how do you overcome this? Read her profile and point something out and use it in the subject line – I use that tactic all the time and it works. It shows them you read their profile.

That it for now – Keep on keepin on…

~ Dre

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Okay we talked about some of the do’s and don’ts of contacting women you find online via email. I’ve actually had many of my Match and POF dates tell me some weird emails they’ve received from guys.

I hope my post will steer you away from those mistakes. Today I want to discuss your online profile and what really matters most.

The most important thing is your profile must tell a story about you. Your story should be one of a man that isn’t needy, is fun to be around and confident.

How do you accomplish this? The first thing is to have several photos that put you in those types of social situations. If you have photos of yourself in the mirror without your shirt – REMOVE them. Next time you’re out partying, a house party, enjoying Sunday funday – snap some photos and post those up on your profile.

How may times do you see women posting photos of themselves on Facebook? That’s right all the damn time!

Those photos put you out there as that fun guy and that’s what women want. They want a fun confident guy not that creep taking photos of himself in the mirror and in the hallway with no smile.

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Here’s another aspect of your profile you need to be mindful about, not coming off needy. I have to say I’ve read a ton of profile heading that rings – LOSER.   “Please pick me” , “Nice guy looking for love”. Sorry but you want to attract them not scare them.

Never mention you are a nice guy. Sure women say all the time they want a good guy who is nice and blah blah blah. You know what the problem is? It’s all bullshit because they always view the nice guy as a pussy. I had to learn that fu*cked up lesson time and time again.

Don’t get me wrong deep down many women want that nice guy but you can’t be a pussy – be strong and be a MAN.

Until next time keep on keepin on…
 
~ Dre

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Okay guys I need to write something here that I see more and more guys are doing when writing emails to women on Match.com or Plenty of Fish. I know and realize there are some online dating courses that talk about “challenging women” with a back handed compliment or something really stupid along those lines.

Guess what guys? Those tactics suck and don’t work. I had a coffee date with this cutie on Sunday (met her on plenty of fish) and she if I had any bad experiences. I turned my story into a funny one and when I was finished I asked about hers.

She mentioned how she was receiving emails from guys with some back handed compliments. I immediately thought to myself of a few of the online dating courses out there that proclaim you must challenge all women on any dating site.

Okay lets back up here a second and break this down. I asked my coffee date what she thought of the email? What was her response – “that was so lame”.

 Look, I myself have given positive reviews to a couple of these online dating but come on! Back handed compliments don’t work trust me I know – I did the same crap and I received ZERO responses.  

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All you do is sort of insult them and your email get deleted. WTF?! No bueno buddy you need to change up your game.

The best email I use with online dating websites will contain something along the lines of: “…you seem different and genuine…” That’s it!

Sure I will include some more stuff but I keep it short and send them off. Most of your responses will depend on what your profile says and your photos. I will follow up with some tips and tricks for a great profile this week so stay tuned!

Keep on keepin on…
 
~ Dre

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I had to put up this post after looking at what my coworker did on his MySapce account.

Yes I was at work screwing around with my buddy on MySpace – so there!

However I wasn’t ready for his move on MySpace that made my cringe in total horror. What was his mistake? He left a comment on some chick’s profile he liked BUT hasn’t yet dated. I totally wanted to knock him upside the head and say what the hell are you doing?

A lot of guys do this but I made him promise from that day forward he’ll never ever do it again. Why – simply because it destroyed his chances with that girl. The reason is simple leaving her a comment you’re basically projecting yourself as a beta male and completely hand her the victory. All the mystery is gone at that point.

She won you over with no effort, you didn’t even put up a challenge. Instead you come off looking like a needy loser in her mind.

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There you have it fellas learn from my friends mistake. Don’t leave stupid comments on her profile if you are interested in her. There is a way to get her attention without appearing like some needy loser.

Keep on keepin on!!

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Wow, it’s good to be back here with you guys – all last week I was battling the cold and the rains here is Sothern California. I hope you guys have been getting out there and meeting women. But most importantly make sure you’re having fun.

Okay for today I want to talk about the types of photos to include in your profile.

1. Out in social settings -  communicates that you are social and like to have fun.
2. With other women -  so you don’t look like a total complete loser.
3. Photos with kids – recommended for guys in the 31 – 38 year old rage it communicates that you are looking to settle down and are serious.
4. On vacation – communicates you are cultured with a worldly view.
5. Activities – includes sailing, skiing, climbing, snowboarding etc.. These types of activities communicate you have a life outside from work and partying.

If you don’t already have some sort of hobby I advise to look for something to do and occupy your time. It’s also a great way to meet women with similar tastes.

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Me personally I started taking guitar lessons and I love it! I’ve always loved music and it’s fun.

I would avoid just having one photo – too bland too boring.

For you guys in the 29 – 39 year old range I recommend a photo of you in a casual sports jacket and button down shirt. (Of course do this if it fits your own personal style, if not then don’t worry about it).

Any idea what is the worst photo to have in your profile?

Drum roll please…..

The one with your shirt off in the mirror. I kid you not I have read profiles of women saying “please don’t email them if you have this photo”.

Please don’t do this don’t make yourself look like a tool. If you are guilty of this then DELETE that photo.

Well there it is use these tips and make your dating profile tell a story. The best way is through the use of photos.

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So you asking yourself what can be easier than meeting women in a bar, club or even a party? Actually there is one way to meet women where you can cherry pick any girl at a glace and choose which you want to say, ‘Hi’ to.

I’m talking online dating and it freakin’ works. A close buddy of mine used it to find his girlfriend and they’ve been dating for two years. A girl I work with in the office says her sister found love online.

Before writing this post I checked my Yahoo! email and I had a couple of unread messages from Plenty of Fish.

Online dating isn’t that hard. I actually used a sneaky trick to come up with my own online profile by spying on the competition.

I’m excited you are reading this post since I’m about to reveal the best way to come up with a killer profile. Use this easy 3-step process and you have a powerful online dating profile that will attract women.

Here are the steps I used:

1. Use Plenty Of Fish for free account and sign up as a single women.
2. Include photo of a hot chick.
3. Write a basic fun profile (I just copied from another girls profile)

Bingo – now I have set up a profile allowing me to spy on the competition.

So now I have guys emailing my fake profile and I’m paying attention to whose profile comes off as strong and confident. I’ll read the profiles and borrow bits and pieces and change it to reflect my own personality.

At the same time I’ll take the best emails that caught my eye and use them to contact the women I’m attracted to.

I did this when I came up with my own Match profile and it worked like a charm. I admit there are ton of terrible profiles but this also taught me what not to write in my profile.

If you want to attract women online you need to have the tools to reel them in and the best way to accomplish this is learning from the pros. There is nothing wrong with borrowing a line here or there. Just use your common sense and don’t copy any profile word for word.

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I want to start off with an apology….

I know this month I have lagged on my postings and my trip to Utah didn’t help. My aim is to be in front of you helping you get better with women. Truth is that I’m behind and that’s not my intention – there is no excuse for being lazy.

Sorry for not keeping to my schedule.

Okay let start with some more tips on texting women.

From my last posting I got several emails asking about some more tips when texting women. Look it’s not that difficult all you have to do really is a couple of things – keep it fun and avoid boring texts.

If there is anything I noticed in particular with young women they LOVE TO TEXT – so much so it’s sickening. I see it all day long with the girls I work with. It’s amazing it seems they get paid to text their girlfriends and boyfriends.

Just think about it for a second, information is disseminated in so many ways now we don’t even have to talk to that person on the phone – texting is an option. The best part about texting is that you can use it to flirt with women and set up dates.

WARNING: There is one catch; you have to refine your texting skills with women because texting women like the average Joe will get you no where.

So what is the secret in texting women? Bantering or flirting with women in a fun playful way. The best thing it’s 10x better than emailing her since it can takes hours even days before she checks it.

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My rules or texting women:

1. I’m a big fan of pet names – sweetie, cuties sugar pie, darling, brat (I use darling the most).
2. Many times I’ll use :) smiley faces.
3. I always try to make her smile with my texts – being too serious will not get you anywhere.
4. Don’t be afraid to flirt with her!

Final note – you can pretty much text her when ever. I like to mass text an invite to meet up after work for drinks to several women and wait for a response. When I do get one to respond all I do it respond back and set up the meet.

Here are just some tips to use when texting women – they also come in handy for those women you don’t get to see very often.

Enjoy and keep on keepin on!

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Hey guys I got a sweet little trick for you to use to make sure you can always land a date on a Friday night that will hopefully lead into making her coffee the following morning. Need I say more?

Okay by this point hopefully you have several phone numbers of women you have been meeting already programmed into your phone.

Needless to say for this to work you need a cell phone and text messaging (women really do text way too much).

Okay basically it involves you sending out a mass text to those women you want to meet up with. You can simply use this text message:

“Let’s grab a drink tonight”

Now these women should all be ones you have been meeting online, bars, clubs, circle of friends etc. It’s as simple as that – as a matter of fact you can do this like a ‘text of the day’ or ‘text of the week’. I’ve done this plenty of times and I’ll usually have a couple of replies.

From there you simply lead her and text back where you want to meet and at what time.

Easy right!

Before I argued to never text a women right after meeting her – I still feel that way (I feel that to leave a lasting impression conversation is key). After that’s done you always want to have them around, let’s face it being alone on a Friday night sucks ass. Always remember that dating is a numbers game – you must always put yourself out there willing to have a good time.

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What a weekend – I helped my buddy and his wife move and you’d be surprised at how much crap two people can store. Seriously!

Anyway back to business. Last week we talked about getting your emails read by the women you are contacting online. Like I mentioned until you perfect them I strongly suggest you email women that are a little outside your area so you don’t burn the ones that are closest to you.

But now you have a couple of women respond to you and you have moved beyond the first or second phone call. Now you have to ball up and ask her out but you don’t want to come off too needy, stupid or like some inexperienced jackass.

So, how do you ask her out without using the words – “Will you go out with me?”

There is one very easy solution. Don’t ask her out! In my opinion you are better off in being direct by saying “Hey, I enjoyed talking with you lets meet up somewhere and get to know one another a little bit better.” For the first meet I suggest a coffee shop.

See – very simple no need for magic one liners or some other lame canned openers. A woman will appreciate a man who’s direct rather some cheesy line she can look right through.

Just remember after a couple of emails you should get her phone number and from there get her to meet you in public. Whatever you do don’t use the word date. There is no need to be nervous at this point, if she responded to your email then she’s interested.

I hope this helps with your online dating success. I open to new ideas and suggestions don’t be shy and share your thoughts!

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