Seems like my last post was popular with my female readers :twisted:  I necessarily can’t blame them. I had several emails from women complaining of guys not really knowing how to act in public and looking like complete jackasses. Guys there is a lesson to be learned here – don’t act the guys from Tool Academy!

On to today’s post!

The 1st thing I learned in attracting women when it finally clicked was not to give a damn what other people thought of me. Seriously too many guys are afraid to approach out of fear. They fear what their friends will think, what she will say, so on and so on.

Stop living in fear and start living! Sounds cliché I know but so many guys still don’t approach due to fear.

2nd tip for attracting women is to be a mystery. What I mean is not to divulge your life details first time you meet. Sure you want to answer some of her questions just don’t vomit at the mouth.

One of the best tactics I used was exhibiting aloof behavior. Women are so used to men doing whatever they want breaking that routine will make then want you more. I swear by this! I once dated a chick whose previous boyfriend did what ever she demanded and I came along to disrupt her charmed life.

I didn’t answer her calls right away nor did I kiss her ass – I suggest you do the same.

3rd tip for attracting women is flirting. It’s that simple – flirting can do wonders for men who are tall, short, fat, skinny, handsome or ugly. If you can flirt and make her smile and build that sexual tension YOU WILL GET LAID.

Okay I want to share a hot tip I used in bars and clubs using a simple gesture allowing me to flirt without uttering a word.

“The Look”
Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you are on the other side of the bar and you see a very attractive girl glancing across the room? The real question is what do you do when that attractive girl locks eyes on you?

Now here’s the fun part – you can flirt with her without saying a word.

Yep you can give a look and flirt with her using a simple expression – the one I used with success.

All I do is make eye contact and crack a smile and turn away at the same time. Don’t ask why but it does work. The trick is to casually glance back and see if she is smiling. If she is that’s your queue to move in if not then don’t worry you wont score 100% of the time.

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Ever wonder how guys that are naturals with women are bale to keep them wrapped around the finger with ease? They have a knack for being funny, able to tease and be serious all at the same time. They can change their state from one to the other and still be true to their real personality.

They able to switch it up and don’t feel the need to be serious all the time or funny all the time. Women love it when men send mixed signals and are “different”.

Truth is that men who are always serious are boring. Alternately men that are always funny 100% of the time may be looked at as clowns. Change it up and keep her guessing!  

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It’s just that easy – when she thinks she has you figured out surprise her with something new. I’m not saying to act like a manic – on the contrary be true to your personality. Nothing is lamer than being  a total fake.

What makes this so important is that without warning you can bring her to an emotional high. Women love this type of man and crave the emotions he can stir up.

I hope this helps with your interaction with women and remember to change it up – be funny, serious and playfully tease her. Trust me she will eat this up all day long.

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 I want to pick up from my post Pickup Is Getting Really Overrated, from early this week and share with you what I think are some of the better dating guides to follow and who to trust.

It seems that there are way too many people simply jumping in on the band wagon and putting out a seduction ebook. I’ve read many of these and to put it bluntly most suck donkey balls. You can almost see how most of these gurus are just savvy marketers looking to cash in.

Here is my list of the top 5 relationship experts:
Carlos Xuma – very down to Earth and knows women
Scot McKay - X & Y Communications
Paul Janka – incredible day game expert
Steve Scott - a natural born flirt
Joseph Matthews – Art of approaching very good beginner course

Again this is my list and the only guys that I would subscribe or consider buying anything from. The rest out there is nothing more than re-hashed material. 

Of the list if you want a complete source of how to guides with women then Carlos Xuma is probably the best (especially for inner game and confidence).

One of my new favorites is Paul Janka – his day game technique is simple and awesome. There are no stupid magic tricks, made up stories or bull shit. He is simply being straight forward and in 30 seconds getting a chick to meet him for coffee. Dr. Phil even interviewed his ass!

Why did I choose these 5? From what I’ve seen they consistently deliver on their product(s) and they know what they are talking about when it comes to dating and women. The rest seems to borrow from them and put out “new” material.

I hope this short list helps and remember the whole goal in pick up is to develop your own style. Don’t try to memorize every word these gurus say.  Just understand the basics and the main idea and develop on that and make it your own.

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Here is a lesson I learned some time ago so I thought I share my experiences with you. This can also apply to all the women readers of this blog as well.

Choosing the right women to date and be involved with seems like a daunting task but in reality it doesn’t have to be. Here is a lesson I want you to learn:

My story…
A few years ago I was working at an office with this Filipino chick who stood about 5’8 with a big fake tits and a curvy ass. Of course I thought she was hot so I took an interest but I was thinking more with my junk and not my brain.

Anyway I’m dating this chick and I begin to learn she had a rotten relationship with both her mom and stepdad and hated being around them. That’s a big red flag. Even though she had a rockin body she was still insecure and preferred to have sex with lights out.

A couple of months roll by and her behavior got worse I was calling her out but by then I truthfully wanted to part with her.

The moral of the story avoid women with low self-esteem. Steer Clear From This Type Of Woman!

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That’s basically it! It sounds so simple but so many guys fall for the “damn she’s hot” trap. If you are dating a women and she’s hot it is easy to ask about her family life – that you can discover by simply observing.

I committed the #1 error made by men: concentrating too hard on her looks.

In the case of my ex she had no father to speak of and hated her step-father. So right off the bat she does have some underlying issues with men. All that does is translate into low self-esteem.

For those in your twenties you probably are thinking about simply “hooking up” with as many women as possible. That’s okay but just avoid the following situations:

1. Falling in love with your first girlfriend and marrying her
2. Getting her pregnant (that’s an 18 year sentence)

Personally I’m in a time in my life where I want to find a special woman to settle down with and get married. I have some minor criteria that I’m unwilling to let go for instance:

• She must be close with both her mom and her dad.
• Have a strong faith in God
• She also needs to have an education
• Shows respect to others around her

I don’t think I’m asking for a whole lot here with this short list. Those are my core values and I want that in my partner as well.

Call me crazy!

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I’m having a little fun today and wanted to post these horrible pickup lines I read from MSN Lifestyles. So enjoy, “11 of the Worst Pickup Lines We’ve Ever Heard, and the One We Always Appreciate” by Carly Stern.

We’re not sure what makes guys think lines like these will work, but they make the standard “Do you come here often?” sound almost charming. Read ‘em and cringe.

1. Insulting Libraries Everywhere

“Do you have a library card? Because I’m checking you out.”
—Allison, 22

2. The Ticking Clock Ultimatum

“I’ll give you five seconds to give me your number or you can forget about going out with me forever.”
—Shanna, 27

3. The Self-Congratulatory Approach

“I’m a hot commodity. You’re a hot commodity. We should go out.”
—Julia, 25

4. The Old “Space Pants” Line …

“Are you wearing space pants? Because your rear is out of this world.”
—Amanda, 21

5. Random Anatomical Reference

“You have nice child-bearing hips.”
—Kim, 25

6. Shock to the System

“You look like you would be really bad in bed.”

“What?!”

“You are just so beautiful, you probably think you don’t have to try.”
—Deanna, 21

7. Extra Cheese, Please

“Was your dad a robber? Because he stole the stars from the sky and put them in your eyes.”
—Jamie, 19

8. P.U. or I.O.U.?

“You owe me money.”

“Why?”

“You’ve been living in my heart and you haven’t paid rent.”
—Alanna, 25

9. Misplaced Ardor

“Your mom is hot! I bet you will look just like her when you are older.”
—Emily, 27

10. Hair-Raising Comments

“How long did it take to shave those looong legs?”
—Maggie, 26

11. Schooled in Geography

“Are you from Tennessee?”

“No.”

“Are you sure? ‘Cause you’re the only 10 I see.”
—Emily, 20

Wow – I’ve heard some really shitty pickuplines but man do these suck ass! Hey, we have all been there so I thought I have a little fun and remind you that there are worse ones out there being used. Thank you Carly Stern – these are classic!!

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I don’t know about you but I’m melting in my townhome! For some reason I’m thinking that August is gearing up to be a nasty one.

Okay back to my question; When do you think it’s time to impress her?

Never! Don’t ever adopt the mindset that you need to impress women, once you do you already lost the interaction. You’ll be too preoccupied with what to say, what to wear, what to do – you’ll never be able to just relax.

The “I have to impress” her mindset is one of insecurity and it will show through your actions.

Do you see what will happen? That mindset will drag you down and she will notice every insecure move you make destroying your chances with her. Trust me when I say women notice every word, action and the slightest change in your body language.

The mindset you must adopt when you are around her is not to give a rat’s ass what other people think. Stop worrying what she will think instead have the attitude that “this is who I am take it or leave it.”

Case in point I had a buddy of mine that made good money and let everyone know that he made beaucoup bucks. He also made sure he took he first dates to fancy restaurants buying them dinners. Here’s the problem dinners is a losing proposition. You are sitting mostly eating and not talking, limited interaction and you are stuck with the bill with the hopes of getting laid.

So here is my friend trying to impress his date with an expensive dinner and he’s getting nowhere. Dinners are for serious girlfriends and wives – remember that!

Start adopting the attitude that you don’t need to impress anyone and have the attitude – “This is me you don’t like it too bad.”

As soon as you let go of your insecurities you’ll see your self confidence increase exponentially and your success with women.

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So you are looking to have an endless supply of women to have sex with but you don’t “The Secret” behind it all. Is it some esoteric thing floating out there available to a few men?

I say NO!

There are many so called PUA’s out there that want you to think they know it all and are in possession of this knowledge of attracting women but that’s not the case. So why is it that it’s always up to men to make the approach and for some of us difficult?

Here is the explanation once and for all: Social norms dictate it’s the man’s duty to make the first move. Blame it on our cave man forefathers or society, just accept it and move on.

Secondly – why is it difficult for many men to attract women or say the right things? Just look at teenage girls – they start reading Cosmo and other magazines that basically teach them to do A, B, and C to attract men when they get older. They start very young and to top it all off girls are natural born communicators.

Boys don’t have any real training nor are natural born communicators (generally speaking). For some of us we figure it out very soon and become very good with women – really good. It seems they have this harem of women no matter what.

So what was it that these guys figured out early on that led them to an abundant sex life?

They accepted rejection and moved on. That’s it! Whenever a young girl or woman rejected them they never once let it bring them down or dwelled on it. They didn’t give a shit if she said no – all he did was turn to the next chick and hit on her.

This constant approaching and rejection allowed them to fine tune their skills and made them ready for any bitch shield that was thrown at them. Approaching women and getting good at it – required a lot of practice.

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Okay I’m going to break away a little from posting about online dating and touch on this subject of the economy and dating. Why am I doing this? Because just like you I’m feeling a very slow economy and yesterday when I was writing out my check, my flesh began to crawl.

I know we are feeling the pinch here with this crappy economy and it’s not easy – trust me I was laid off back in April and was unemployed for 3 weeks. Talk about shitting bricks and having to worry about how you’ll pay the rent isn’t fun.

Perhaps you may feel that you must be making beacoup bucks in order attract women – NOT TRUE!

I will be the first to say that women are attracted to men with money. Yes it’s true, just accept that simple undeniable fact. For women it represents security and safety that a man with money can provide.

However, you can still attract those same hot women without money as well. In this economy you can get away with going out and still not spend a lot of money. Case in point: Yesterday I was invited my old roommate to happy hour and this expensive steak house.

Here was the best part – the happy hour menu was $5 for an array of foods from 4:30 pm – 6:30 pm. Here another thing during happy hour there are a ton of women out there as well. You can’t lose in this situation – you can spend $25 on food and drinks and still meet women!

You don’t have to spend a lot of money or have a lot of money in order to attract women – you should however have some ambition in your life. Women are very forgiving but when it comes to lack of ambition it will translate to a man with no balls.

All you need to do is look for fun inexpensive things to do (which is not hard) and you will score some huge points with her. When I was living in NYC I would always pick up the Village Voice and see what’s hot that wouldn’t burn a hole in my pocket.

I hope this helps with your dating life. It will also help to be a little more proactive when looking for new things to do where you can meet women.

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I want to introduced you to Nico Simon Princely of Pick Women Up Online He has put together an incredible resource that will show how to attract women online using MySpace. What I like about Nico is that he’s genuine, NOT full of crap like so many other PUA’s polluting the net.

In fact he argues that the absolute #1 place to meet women on line is a site you are probably on already but just never bothered to calibrate it to meet women.

What I walked away with the most is that he gives you all the tricks in crafting the perfect emails and subject lines so they don’t get ignored. This guy really knows his shit when it comes to attracting women online.

Here is a peek as to what you will learn from his starter course:

• His secrets to getting women to respond to your e-mails and e-mail you back.
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• The different kinds of women online and what you must know about them in order to be successful in picking them up.

Here is the best part about Nico’s Pick Up Women Online Starter Kit – it’s 100% free! Yes – I subscribed and got a report right away but a week later he sent me a link with a login for all this stuff. The best part I didn’t pay squat for it.

Why is he giving this away for free when he could easily charge for it? Beats the hell out of me – but hey to each his own.

So what is the catch? Subscribe to his newsletter and that’s it.

Again to take advantage of this free offer with no obligation is to visit Pick Up Women Online and subscribe – it’s that easy.

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We hear so much talk about “being yourself” around women and never act fake. I agree you should never put up a charade but I DISAGREE with the whole “just be yourself” statement.

Talk to any woman and they will all tell a guy just be yourself but they are lying. Truth is that for many of us guys following that approach could be disaster. Many of you may not have much experience with women. Do you think a woman will want to be with a total socially inept nerd that loves playing video games on Friday nights?

Of course not! Women want a man that can light that fire and you need to have certain skills that can do just that. Being yourself is not enough in the dating world.

I’m not talking about acting like some Casanova to get the ladies and lying to women – that’s lame and it will come back to you. Ever heard of karma?

All I am saying is to improve your social / communication skills and develop your personality. There is noting more liberating than becoming a new person and improving your life.

Being yourself is only good advice when you have transformed your personality into one that women will be attracted to. I used to laugh when in high school and college I hear women say – I love guys that are themselves. What made it even more funny – is that I fell for it hook line and sinker.

Lets face the facts romance is a female’s fantasy world where they want to be swept off their feet. You have to be able to do just that. If not you will be nothing more than a “friend” and you will be locked away in that category. I should know – I for a long time was that fool who followed that lame advice.

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