Yep that dreaded feeling that seems to overcome your mind and body when the idea comes to actually approach a girl you are attracted to. It happens to all of us at one point or for some of us all the time.

So what is it……Nervousness.

It’s a perfectly natural feeling so don’t feel you are being punished. All men go through this. The main reason is because subconsciously you are afraid of how you will look if you are rejected. Let’s face it you don’t want to be rejected in front of your friends and have them laugh at your failure.

Am I right? I went through the exact same thing. The problem is that nervousness doesn’t just go away. To beat approach anxiety you must change what your focus is at that moment.

For example in my early days I would worry on how she would reject me. Right off the bat I already was thinking defeat and rejection. What possible good outcome could I expect? Absolutely none.

I switched my focus by picturing in my minds eye that whomever I wound up approaching she would be totally into me and the two of us having a great time.

To get over the initial nervous feeling I would simply take a deep breath and just do it. I would stop worrying about what could happen and focused on a positive outcome.

Anxiety is your nervousness on steroids – management is key to making it go away. Adopting a breathing exercise and changing your focus are your weapons against approach anxiety.

For you guys that are painfully shy you’ll need to start somewhere and I highly suggest making a one-month commitment to actually go out 3-4 nights out of the week to a restaurant, bar or café and be with other people. I’m not suggesting you pick someone up every night. BUT get into the habit of putting yourself out there.

Make this a habit so you can get over your shyness – make this a ritual and start talking to people you will soon overcome your approach anxiety as well.

I just had t share this photo with you all. Here was my WTF moment of the day (with a tattoo like that you know she’s easy )

Mom must be so proud……

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